I love my brother, quite a lot actually. He has always been some sort of an idol for me; not always a good one, but an idol. So whenever he picks his fights with me i always gets heart broken. Considering that i spend most of my time inside or working out hes comments are always about how little of a life i have and that i have no friends. I am fully aware of the fact that most of my friends are online and that i don’t hang a lot with my irl ones, but it still hurts. The worst part is when he tells me that i have no future and that imma end up like a hooker selling myself. The worst part is that it was a part of some “joke” we had between ourselves and it ended up with me getting called a whore at school, which he doesnt know. Thats the thing, he doesnt know. I’ve always mocked him back but the last years it sorta hurts quite alot. My brother isn’t a bad brother at all, hes always there for me when i let him be, it just hurts abit.
First thing, those people he is referring to as whores and hookers in his attempt to insult you are people, with feelings and families. So that is not a kind way to speak. Second thing, it sounds like a really rough way to kid about with you, and I think it is really horrible to you. He does not have the right. Third thing, and I speak as a guy, he probably does not even notice or realise or mean it. So I guess you need to tell him if you value him, that he is hurting your feelings and that you find his comments really mean. And what on earth does he mean you have no future? You have all the future in the world!
Yes i know its a harsh joke, but the jokes inside my family tend to be quite harsh. And im just as mean back to him. And i know i should confront him but it really doesn’t matter that much because i know he cares about me anyways.